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Meditation & Traveling

One thing that is interesting when practicing meditation: traveling and going to places doesn’t mean that much as it used to, or as you thought it would be. You stop looking for the right place to be, and you focus more on your own place where-ever you are. You begin to be more concerned about what’s inside than what’s outside.

No matter where you are, it’s much more important WHO you are and how you react to the things that surrounds you. You can get the same happiness and peace where-ever in the world you are now. The beauty, happiness, peace and serenity of nature is lost if your mind is not in a good place. If you want to find your place, it’s all about what’s inside.

You find your place in how you react to the world around you. Because in the end, it’s all seeing, hearing, smelling, tasting, feeling and thinking. there is nothing beyond those things. Where-ever you go, they’re all the same. What’s different is your reaction, your ability to accept and to be happy where-ever you are at all times.

 

— This is an excerpt from a video I watched last year; a talk from a Theravada monk living in Sri Lanka. his name is Yuttadhammo.

 

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When Awareness is being Challenged

Good morning! It’s such a wonderful morning here. The sun is shining really bright and the nature’s vibe is perfect. However, my housemate’s vibes aren’t. Lol.

I was awaken by my brother ranting about being late for work; he probably woke up late again. When I got out of bed, my uncle is also ranting and continuously nagging about something in the kitchen. I couldn’t figure out how many times he repeated what he was saying. Hahaha. And then I got a text from my cousin, her mom is sick and she’s worried.

Ah, what a wonderful morning, right? And it’s just 8AM now.

Of course those things also affect me; I’m not a cold person who doesn’t care about anything or anyone. But I always try to keep calm and not worry too much. Worry never gets me anywhere. And I know things like these happen either because I attracted them into my reality or that there is something I need to learn from it.

First, with my brother: May he develop self-discipline. May I develop self-discipline too and may all of us develop self-discipline. It’s not surprising to me that my brother has been slacking because he’s always been like that. He always need someone to wake him up early or else he will be late. Someone has to turn the TV off sometimes because he ‘forgets’ about it. He needs someone to remind him to study his notes, and so on. This teaches me to develop self-discipline in myself because I see in my brother the consequences of not having it. I pray that he ends this cycle and may he act like a real grown up. I pray that I will have the patience to always remind him things to a certain extent. I pray that he understands when I don’t remind him, hoping that he will learn it on his own. I pray that I develop self-discipline myself.

Second, my uncle: May he develop peace of mind and inner happiness. May he develop a good temper. May I also develop these things and may we all develop inner peace, happiness and good temper. It is in my uncle’s nature to be really short-tempered and always rants about something. We know that it is not in our hands to change that and we have to endure his attitude for as long as he is living with us. From his nature, I learn that it is important to have a good sense of humor, because I see the consequences of not having it. I learn that patience with everyone makes life less stressful. I pray that he develop inner peace, patience and a good sense of humor. I pray these too for myself and for all beings.

Third, my worried cousin: May she develop calmness and peace of mind. May she understand that worrying won’t solve her problems and it’s better if she just pray. May she realize that everything happens for a reason and unfolds the way she attracted it and accept things as they are for her own good. She has been a really good cousin to me, a good daughter to her parents and good sister to her siblings. There are times when she loves others more than she loves herself and she have insecurity issues. When she found out her mom is sick, she was crying and she feels as if life is so hard that whatever she does doesn’t make the world better. From her, I learn the value of reflection. When I reflect whatever it is that is happening in my life before I react, there is an underlying lesson to it that I can learn. I also learn from her the value of prayer and meditation; as talking with God makes us realize things. I pray that she realize that the world is perfect. I pray that she realize that life is working perfectly for her. And I pray that he mom is going to be alright, which is actually..she just had angina, due to excessive stress, now she’s alright.

—Why don’t I tell them these myself instead of writing them down on my silly blog where they can’t even read it? It is because i don’t like to push them into believing me, and I respect their own beliefs. For me, meditating and praying is the best way to approach them. I know the works of the Universe is so vast that I can wish for my loved one’s health and happiness by the power of positive thinking. I know that everything IS alright now. Everything is perfect now, for me and for everyone. It is their call to open their eyes into it. Time will come when they will realize things. This is how I avoid family conflicts. And also how I try to stay in awareness.

Meditation for Beginners: 20 Practical Tips for Quieting the Mind

 

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1) Make it a formal practice. You will only get to the next level in meditation by setting aside specific time (preferably two times a day) to be still.

2) Start with the breath. Breathing deep slows the heart rate, relaxes the muscles, focuses the mind and is an ideal way to begin practice.

3) Stretch first. Stretching loosens the muscles and tendons allowing you to sit (or lie) more comfortably. Additionally, stretching starts the process of “going inward” and brings added attention to the body.

4) Meditate with Purpose. Beginners must understand that meditation is an ACTIVE process. The art of focusing your attention to a single point is hard work, and you have to be purposefully engaged!

5) Notice frustration creep up on you. This is very common for beginners as we think “hey, what am I doing here” or “why can’t I just quiet my damn mind already”. When this happens, really focus in on your breath and let the frustrated feelings go.

6) Experiment. Although many of us think of effective meditation as a Yogi sitting cross-legged beneath a Bonzi tree, beginners should be more experimental and try different types of meditation. Try sitting, lying, eyes open, eyes closed, etc.

7) Feel your body parts. A great practice for beginning meditators is to take notice of the body when a meditative state starts to take hold. Once the mind quiets, put all your attention to the feet and then slowly move your way up the body (include your internal organs). This is very healthy and an indicator that you are on the right path.

8) Pick a specific room in your home to meditate. Make sure it is not the same room where you do work, exercise, or sleep. Place candles and other spiritual paraphernalia in the room to help you feel at ease.

9) Read a book (or two) on meditation. Preferably an instructional guide AND one that describes the benefits of deep meditative states. This will get you motivated. John Kabat-Zinn’sWherever You Go, There You Are is terrific for beginners.

10) Commit for the long haul. Meditation is a life-long practice, and you will benefit most by NOT examining the results of your daily practice. Just do the best you can every day, and then let it go!

11) Listen to instructional tapes and CDs.

12) Generate moments of awareness during the day. Finding your breath and “being present” while not in formal practice is a wonderful way to evolve your meditation habits.

13) Make sure you will not be disturbed. One of the biggest mistakes beginners make is not insuring peaceful practice conditions. If you have it in the back of your mind that the phone might ring, your kids might wake, or your coffee pot might whistle than you will not be able to attain a state of deep relaxation.

14) Notice small adjustments. For beginning meditators, the slightest physical movements can transform a meditative practice from one of frustration to one of renewal. These adjustments may be barely noticeable to an observer, but they can mean everything for your practice.

15) Use a candle. Meditating with eyes closed can be challenging for a beginner. Lighting a candle and using it as your point of focus allows you to strengthen your attention with a visual cue. This can be very powerful.

16) Do NOT Stress. This may be the most important tip for beginners, and the hardest to implement. No matter what happens during your meditation practice, do not stress about it. This includes being nervous before meditating and angry afterwards. Meditation is what it is, and just do the best you can at the time.

17) Do it together. Meditating with a partner or loved one can have many wonderful benefits, and can improve your practice. However, it is necessary to make sure that you set agreed-upon ground rules before you begin!

18) Meditate early in the morning. Without a doubt, early morning is an ideal
time to practice: it is quieter, your mind is not filled with the usual clutter, and there is less chance you will be disturbed. Make it a habit to get up half an hour earlier to meditate.

19) Be Grateful at the end. Once your practice is through, spend 2-3 minutes feeling appreciative of the opportunity to practice and your mind’s ability to focus.

20) Notice when your interest in meditation begins to wane. Meditation is
hard work, and you will inevitably come to a point where it seemingly does not fit into the picture anymore. THIS is when you need your practice the most and I recommend you go back to the book(s) or the CD’s you listened to and become re-invigorated with the practice. Chances are that losing the ability to focus on meditation is parallel with your inability to focus in other areas of your life!

Meditation is an absolutely wonderful practice, but can be very difficult in the beginning. Use the tips described in this article to get your practice to the next level!

Read full article here.

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“Meditation is like farming….. ” the right soil is required to grow anything, nothing will grow if the soil is polluted by striving or pushing too hard”.”

~Jon Kabt-Zinn

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  • “The “moment” has no yesterday or tomorrow. It is not the result of thought and therefore has no time.”
  • “Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Willing is not enough: we must do.”
  • “Learning is never cumulative, it is a movement of knowing which has no beginning and no end.”
  • “The measure  of the moral worth of a man is his happiness. The better the man, the more happiness. Happiness is the synonym of well-being”
  • ” Real living is living for others.”
  • “Defeat is a state of mind; no one is ever defeated until defeat has been accepted as a reality.”
  • “Never waste energy on worries or negative thoughts, all problems are brought into existence -drop them.”
  • “A goal is not always meant to be reached. It often serves simply as something to aim at.”
  • “Because one does not want to be disturbed, to be made uncertain, he establishes a pattern of conduct, of thought, a pattern of relationship to man etc. Then he becomes a slave to the patter and takes the pattern to be the real thing.”
  • “Zen is not “attained” by mirror-wiping mediation, but by “self-forgetfulness in the existential ‘present’ of life here and now.” We do not “come”, we “are.” Don’t strive to become, but be.”
  • “Those who are unaware they are walking in darkness will never seek the light.”
  • “Mistakes are always forgivable, if one has the courage to admit them.”
  • “To grow, to discover, we need involvement which is something I experience everyday, sometimes good, sometimes frustrating.”

What did you gain from meditation?

A meditator in Sri Lanka shares his experiences and his realizations while living with monks.

 

 

via Yuttadhammo

Here-Now

I’d like to share you this quote from the author of the book and movie The Secret, Rhonda Byrne.

There is no past or future for the law of attraction, only the present, so stop referring to your life in the past as very difficult, or full of hardship and pain, or in any other negative way.

Remember that the law only operates in the present, so when you speak of your past life negatively the law is receiving your words and sending those things back to you NOW.

Here-Now

I am very thankful for the people whom I’ve met as I continue on the path. The best lesson they shared with me is to live in the HERE and NOW. This is probably the only thing I needed to learn for my whole lifetime.

A lot of you will agree with me when I say living in either the past or the future brings a lot of suffering. For someone who’s been there, done that, I know it is chaotic.

If we only pay attention to the present moment, there is nothing to worry about. There is nothing to remember. There is nothing to plan, nothing to regret. Now is all there is.

So how do we do this?

Again, the answer is meditation. When meditating, we pay attention to the breath as we inhale-exhale. As we do this, we are absolutely being in the here and now. When we pay attention to our breath, we notice how the thoughts slowly disappear. When there are no thoughts about the past nor the future, what’s left is only the HERE & NOW.

As we start to practice meditating, we learn how to be here and now while sitting for a few minutes. In the long run, we can incorporate meditation moment-to-moment even while doing our everyday repetitive tasks. This is the ultimate quest.

This is also why monks become monks in the first place. In order for them to have more time for meditation. More time for them to be in the here and now with less distractions. They are not just people who want to get away from the mundane tasks of living. They are actually the ones who are really living.

So the more meditation you do, the more you can be in the present moment. Because there is nothing to go but right here. There is nothing to be but right now.

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