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Here’s one way to immediately feel good about yourself

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 Here’s one way to feel good about yourself

There are times when we just don’t feel good about ourselves.
Maybe someone said something negative about you and you started vibrating that negativity,
or you feel jealous of someone else, or maybe you’re just having what you think is a bad day.

No matter what the reason is for you to feel negative, it’s just not so easy to run away when you’re already inside the hole.

I’ve had days like that too, maybe way too much bad days until I told myself, ”Ok, that’s it. I’m feeling awful and I don’t like it. My soul does not appreciate it, and it’s time to stop this cycle.”

That’s why I came up with a way to feel good about myself in times when I don’t feel like it — which is when I most need it.

A very effective way to instantly feel good about ourselves is to make a list of the things that we appreciate about ourselves.

Hmm, you may be thinking it’s not easy to do that when you’re already feeling bad about yourself.

Try it. Start with 5 things you appreciate about yourself. You’ll notice how fast that lifts your mood.

After writing down the first 5 things you love about yourself, don’t stop. Keep writing.

And you will end up wanting to write even more, because you will find so many things to love about You!

It is so easy for most of us to appreciate things, people, arts, music.. But we find it difficult to appreciate ourselves.

It’s because we don’t practice examining the good things about us, and we only focus on what we think are not good about us.

If each day, we spend a few minutes writing down about the things we love and appreciate about ourselves, we will become more of the things we are good at.

When we appreciate ourselves, we create a wonderful good-feeling vibration inside us and it will radiate on the outside.

The people around us will be able to channel that energy as well and we create a lovable environment with people appreciating us, smiling at us, approaching us, complementing us. You’ll begin noticing the ripple effect of it.

So grab a pen and paper and write down the things you appreciate about yourself and begin to create a more joyful world around you.

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Strange, Awesome Feeling After Having High Fever

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 The late afternoon of Friday last week, I already felt something coming.
The weather has brought really cold winds and sometimes drizzles.
A lot of people in town are catching colds and flu.

Even so, I still went out to catch up with friends on an open space – a go-kart area and we had pizza.
My friends also insisted me to try riding the go-kart, since it was my first time.
So I did, amid the really cold weather. Attacking the wind by riding the go-kart really fast is not a good idea!

I went home that evening, my shoulders were hurting, and my body felt really tired.
When I went to bed, I felt really cold and I had to be under thick blankets.

The next day, I woke up with continuous sneezing.
I knew that it will not be a ‘good-healthy-day’ for me.

The evening of that day, I felt really cold, and my body was shaking so bad that I had to rush to my bed or else I would faint.
My temperature raised so quickly while I was shaking. Fever and flu.

I take care of myself when I get sick, so I went to get myself some fever medicines, a few liters of water to drink, a basin with water and a face towel.

I took the medicines, drank lots of water, moisten the face towel and placed it on my forehead.
I drank lots of water that night and (of course) had to pee a lot.

I’ve had fever and flu several times in my life already, but this previous one was one of the most difficult, in terms of the body aches I felt.

It went on like that for 2 more nights until I felt recovery is on the way.

When my temperature was back to normal, I woke up on a lovely day — the sun was shining brightly, I saw the flowers in the garden, there were butterflies (in my previous posts, I mentioned that whenever I see a butterfly, it will be a wonderful day).
My body was still feeling weak that morning, but my spirit felt really happy.
It was almost a strange feeling, and also nostalgic.
I just felt — so good and happy!

So the first thing I did was whisper my gratitude to the Universe, and shout it in my heart, “Thank you, for this beautiful day.”
It is natural for me to feel grateful, but it was really special that day.
And I told the Universe how I loved that moment and I want to feel like that every day.

I could hear the Universe/Source telling me (in my mind), that the beautiful day, the butterflies, the flowers, the bright sun — they only remind me to tap into that wonderful-feeling place, but it’s always there. I will be able to be there when I remember that it’s always there.

I was so happy that I felt like crying, but I didn’t want to spoil the moment with my emotions.
I closed my eyes and connected to my ever-grateful self and in a spiritual way, sent my gratitude to everything in nature, and everything round me that morning, I let them know that I am grateful.

It’s been one week since that beautiful morning, and I still feel that strange, awesome feeling after having high fever.
I am grateful.

Detachment is not Selfishness – It’s Actually what Unconditional Love Really Is

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For a few years now, I have studied and tried to understand the meaning of the word ‘detachment’ and I came up with the conclusion that it is synonymous to unconditional love. But how could that be when detachment is the absence of affection? Let me share with you the important lessons I’ve learned through learning and practicing detachment and how I relate it with unconditional love.

I first heard the word detachment from a friend I met on Facebook (yes, Facebook can be a place to meet spiritual and wise people). He once asked me “Are you detached?” and my 19-year old childish mind cannot even comprehend what the word actually means, and I am being asked if I were detached. I quickly looked it up on the Internet and according to Wikipedia, detachment is a state in which a person overcomes his or her attachment to desire for things, people or concepts of the world and thus attains a heightened perspective.

At that time, I admit I wasn’t even that close to being detached. But I knew I wanted to be. I was just beginning in my spiritual journey, searching for the ‘meaning of life’, so it was perfect timing.

After that, I searched for articles I can find on the internet about detachment and any written materials from teachers, gurus, monks, yogis and so on.

I noticed is that detachment or non-attachment speaks more about loving our Self, above others. At first, it sounded like selfishness. It can seem like that to people who refuse to embrace the idea.

From what I have read and learned, being detached means not being affected by whatever happens outside of my-Self. I am detached when I do not try to control other people and let them be what they are. This also means letting them feel their sadness, their grief, as well as their joys.

We do not wish for them to change; because we can love them just the way they are.

This doesn’t mean we don’t care for them. We just understand that they have their own journeys to make, mistakes to learn from, and experiences to have.

It sounds painful at first, especially if we want someone we love to stay safe and guarded. We think we know better so we tell them to live a certain way, act a certain way and be a certain way. We think we are showing love when we do this.

But controlling someone make them prisoners of our own fears. It stops them from experiencing the fullness of life. We lock them in our own cages because we think we are not fit to fly, so they shouldn’t try either.

Detachment allows us to love unconditionally by letting others be what they want to be.

This, in turn, allows everyone to be happy, fulfilled and living their life’s purposes.

I had the greatest test of my practice on detachment when my past boyfriend broke up with me. It hurts so much when he chose his booming career over our relationship.

I supported him on his decision, but it took time for me to accept it.

But knowing how detachment works, loving him does not stop when we broke up.

I can continue to love him, being happy with his accomplishments, knowing that he went after his dreams.

Being detached is letting the situation manifest as it will, without worrying about the outcome. When things go opposite of what we’ve planned, we don’t get angry or blame someone else for it.

We let things be, and we accept.

Guest Post on Finerminds

 

One of my dreams came true on October 31st. It is to get published on Finerminds; a website that is part of an awesome publishing company, Mindvalley. They publish daily doses of personal growth materials and writings.

Click the photo to read my guest post. 🙂 Thank you so much!

Start and End the Day with Laughter

 

“In a few Zen monasteries, every monk has to start his morning with laughter, and has to end his night with laughter — the first thing and the last thing! You try it. It is very beautiful. It will look a little crazy — mm? — because so many serious people are all around. They will not understand. If you are happy, they always ask why. The question is foolish! If you are sad, they never ask why. They take it for granted — if you are sad, it’s okay. Everybody is sad. What is new in it? Even if you want to tell them, they are not interested because they know all about it, they themselves are sad. So what is the point of telling a long story? — cut it short!

But if you are laughing for no reason, then they become alert — something has gone wrong. This man seems to be a little crazy because only crazy people enjoy laughter; only in madhouses will you find crazy people laughing. This is unfortunate, but this is so. It will be difficult, if you are a husband or a wife it will be difficult for you to suddenly laugh early in the morning. But try it — it pays tremendously. It is one of the most beautiful moods to get up with, to get out of the bed with.

For no reason! because there is no reason. Simply, you are again there, still alive — it is a miracle! It seems ridiculous! Why are you alive? And again the world is there. Your wife is still snoring, and the same room, and the same house. In this constantly changing world — what Hindus call the ‘maya’ — at least for one night nothing has changed? Everything is there: you can hear the milkman and the traffic has started, and the same noises — it is worth laughing for!

One day you will not get into the morning. One day the milkman will knock at the door, the wife will be snoring, but you will not be there. One day, death will come. Before it knocks you down, have a good laugh — while there is time, have a good laugh.

And look at the whole ridiculousness: again the same day starts; you have done the same things again and again for your whole life. Again you will get into your slippers, rush to the bathroom — for what? Brushing your teeth, taking a shower — for what? Where are you going? Getting ready and nowhere to go! Dressing, rushing to the office — for what? Just to do the same thing again tomorrow?

Look at the whole ridiculousness of it — and have a good laugh. Don’t open your eyes. The moment you feel that sleep is gone, first start laughing, then open the eyes — and that will set a trend for the whole day. If you can laugh early in the morning you will laugh the whole day. You have created a chain effect; one thing leads to another. Laughter leads to more laughter.

And almost always I have seen people doing just the wrong thing. From the very early morning they get out of bed complaining, gloomy, sad, depressed, miserable. Then one thing leads to another — and for nothing. And they get angry… it is very bad because it will change your climate for the whole day, it will set a pattern for the whole day. Zen people are more sane. In their insanity they are saner than you.

They start with laughter… and then the whole day you will feel laughter bubbling, welling up. There are so many ridiculous things happening all over! God must be dying of His laughter — down the centuries, for eternity, seeing this ridiculousness of the world. The people that He has created, and all the absurdities — it is really a comedy. He must be laughing.

If you become silent after your laughter, one day you will hear God also laughing, you will hear the whole existence laughing — trees and stones and stars with you.
And the Zen monk goes to sleep in the night again with laughter. The day is over, the drama is closed again — with laughter he says “Goodbye, and if I survive again, tomorrow morning I will greet you again with laughter.”

Try it! Start and finish your day with laughter, and you will see, by and by, in between these two more and more laughter starts happening. And the more laughing you become, the more religious.”

Osho

Meditation & Traveling

One thing that is interesting when practicing meditation: traveling and going to places doesn’t mean that much as it used to, or as you thought it would be. You stop looking for the right place to be, and you focus more on your own place where-ever you are. You begin to be more concerned about what’s inside than what’s outside.

No matter where you are, it’s much more important WHO you are and how you react to the things that surrounds you. You can get the same happiness and peace where-ever in the world you are now. The beauty, happiness, peace and serenity of nature is lost if your mind is not in a good place. If you want to find your place, it’s all about what’s inside.

You find your place in how you react to the world around you. Because in the end, it’s all seeing, hearing, smelling, tasting, feeling and thinking. there is nothing beyond those things. Where-ever you go, they’re all the same. What’s different is your reaction, your ability to accept and to be happy where-ever you are at all times.

 

— This is an excerpt from a video I watched last year; a talk from a Theravada monk living in Sri Lanka. his name is Yuttadhammo.

 

Don’t be Overwhelmed By An Ego Response

Here is an Interactive Transcript from this video: 

One day, somebody came and spat at the Buddha. The Buddha reacted to him by saying Thank you.

The chief disciple of the Buddha was very upset with the guy who spat at him and he was ready to grab him and hit him.

The Buddha interfered and he said to his disciple Ananda, “Everything in life has a meaning. It happens for a purpose. He spat at me and it was fine for me and I did not react except in a positive way. So he gave me a test; a test of my own ego reaction. I passed. But what happened to you, you failed.”

This is a great story. If you want to succeed in life, there is one thing: There will be people hurting your ego all the time, from morning to evening. Somebody will hurt your ego and you will be hurting somebody’s ego.

The bottom line is you should not be overwhelmed by an ego response. You should step out if somebody praises or somebody abuses you or ridicules you. You are not going to be carried away one way or the other. You are simply like the Buddha — totally freed from the ego.

You will see you will succeed in life if you develop this attitude because as soon as somebody boosts up your ego; he may be doing this to make you happy and it helps you get things done. Then you will get along with this person because whenever your ego is boosted, you feel happy and whenever it is hurt, you feel unhappy. But you should not be a victim in both cases.

If somebody is hurting your ego, let him hurt you but you are not going to be defined by it and you are not going to show any reaction, not even a facial reaction, since the face is the index of the mind.

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