You cannot ‘flaunt’ your miracle – It’s not Fair

I got a new book the other day: Expect a Miracle by Dan Wakefield. I just started reading it, and I want to share with you some of the interesting insights I found.

On the book’s third chapter: Miracles of Healing, the author talks about why some people experience miracles and why others not. Others who do good things and have strong faith in God’s miracles are not able to heal themselves despite of their prayers, while others get miracles so easily. Why is that?

The author had a conversation with a woman in Georgia who is thankful for how her daughter survived a near-fatal accident, and she told him: “We do not flaunt our miracle. What do you say to those people who don’t have one, whose children will be in a hospital the rest of their life? It’s not fair.”

He also talked about a woman he met in a prayer group, who was born with a physical disability and prayed so much for a miraculous healing, like that of what she reads in the bible. She prayed so faithfully but she wasn’t healed and this made her doubt and question her faith. After many years of despair, the idea of miracles started to disturb her.

A lot of people go through this; hoping for a miracle, but denied of one and lose faith in them. But the author found an answer to this.

The author asked a priest why the woman couldn’t get her miracle. The priest said:

What miracles in her life did she not acknowledge? There is the miracle of being able to contribute to life in the face of disability – the inspiration to others as she lives and praises God. No matter how sick or how deprived we are, to the end of our lives we can show and manifest God’s patience and love in the world.”

The author also said that ‘Illness is a ministry.’ There are people in wheelchairs, and as we see them, we realize our own blessings and thank God for our health. It makes us aware. This also tells about how others become our mirrors, if we only open our eyes and our hearts. God is speaking to us with everyone we meet. How we answer to that conversation is up to us. Are we going to question God why He created so much suffering to that man in the wheelchair or are we going to realize how blessed we are and start blessing that man too?

That is our miracle – our willingness to see the blessing beyond the suffering. Do you know about Nick Vujicic? He is a man from Australia, born with no hands and no feet. He has tetra-amelia syndrome, a rare disorder characterized by the absence of all four limbs. But despite of his disability, he started a non-profit organization for people who were disabled just like him, and helps them find meaning in their lives. He does motivational speeches worldwide. He chose to realize his miracle, so he got it.

The reason it’s unfair to flaunt our miracles is that people get offended, but it is not our fault. We tell other people our miracles in the hope that they too can realize theirs.

One of the most profound notions my teacher told me is that: ‘Miracles happen, all the time.’ It’s not just some stories in the book. They exist in this world and it’s just up to me to realize them. And just like a little innocent girl from the fairy tale stories, I began to believe once again in miracles. I have seen them. I have experienced them in my life. There’s even a line from a song that I usually sing whenever I witness a miracle: “I believe in miracles, I’ve seen them all come true…

When someone talks about their miracles, do not get offended. You have your miracles too, if you choose to open your eyes and your heart to them. It’s all around you. This message may even be one of them. 🙂

Have a miraculous day!


The More You Want it, The More You Should LET IT GO

What do you want? This is not about the petty stuffs, but the essential things in life. It can be Love, Peace, Happiness, and so on. Deep in our hearts, we all want these things. And we all TRY really hard to achieve them. What we don’t know however, is that the more we try to get these things, the more we push them away. Letting GO is the key.

LETTING GO. Ahh, that sounds really good. Ever felt the feeling of just releasing everything for a while and just let it all go? It feels good, but we often hesitate on doing it.

I’ve had many instances in my life where I tried so hard to hold on to something because I thought I will feel happy having it. I wanted Love, Peace, happiness, success… When these things get almost within my reach, I would grab into them. But the more I held them in my hands, the more it burned me inside.

Let me discuss the two things most of us chase after at.

SUCCESS … Growing up, I was taught that I have to be successful to earn respect from other people. I wanted it so bad. I felt enthusiastic with life knowing that one day; I will earn the respect I deserve. I thought the word success was synonymous to respect. I made plans on how to achieve that. And I failed. I was going in circles, but never getting to where I wanted to go. After unsuccessful attempts, I just had enough of it. Everything I started seemed to be going downhill. ‘What respect can I earn from this?’ I asked. ‘This is B.S.’ So, I gave up. I let go and I gave up.

Turns out, I was aiming for it the wrong way. I realized that being successful is not about recognition. It’s about doing what I love to do. It brought me back to what I am doing – my work. I love my work. I love writing and ever since I was young, this was what I wanted to do. But I let my own ‘idea’ of success blind me from loving what I was doing. I remember a line from the movie 3 Idiots “Don’t chase success. Be a good engineer and success will chase you.” This applies to any type of job, really.

So I figured, if I just do my work and put my best into it, then success will eventually follow. I am a writer and I started focusing on writing instead of making plans on how to be successful. People who’ve had this experience and realization will agree that the quote from that movie is entirely true. When I let go of wanting to be successful and just focused on the moment – doing my work, the breakthroughs in my career arrived. I am not popular or the richest person in the world (yet), I don’t even care. But I feel good about myself, I love my work, my work loves me, I have loving clients, I am appreciated, and most of all, respected. I really can say now, that I am successful.

LOVE… Of course, who doesn’t want Love?! You’re probably saying, ‘oh, common… if you know I want it, why would I let it go?’ Well, that’s the point. You want it, so you must let it go. I made a few mistakes about having my own idea of love. I wanted it so badly that when I had it, I didn’t want to let go. This happens with relationships most of the time. I admit, I made my own mistakes. Now, as I realize them, I feel sorry for all the people I’ve had expectations with, for all the trouble I might have caused them. I wanted to be loved according to my own terms because I thought by doing that, I can make it last. Love felt so wonderful that I wanted it so bad to stay the same, not knowing it slowly ate away the love that was once there. Not only that, I also was robbing the other person of his own happiness, including my own.

Turns out, when I let go and let love come in, love will flow endlessly. Trying to keep a relationship prevented me from realizing the infinite love that life is offering me. I thought that having a relationship would give me the love I’ve always searched for in life. That thought is so childish. When I finally let go, all the barriers and walls that prevented love from coming in was broken down. I was able to witness God’s love and the love that the Universe is clothing me with. Everything around me was love. Not that I didn’t feel that during the relationships I had, but I didn’t feel the infinite-ness of it back then. It’s not about how much God loves us. It’s about how much love we are willing to let in. And even though God loves us infinitely, holding on to what we think is love blinded us from seeing that everlasting, unconditional love.

Whatever it is we are searching for, if we let go and stop the search – that is how we find it. If we just come back to the moment, it is all there. It is ever HERE and NOW. What is there to hold on to HERE? What is  there to search for NOW? Let it go and let it flow.  🙂

What Makes Me Happy The Most

I used to have all sorts of ideas about what can make me happy. Part of the journey within is a search for the deepest happiness. I thought I wanted things to be happy, or I wanted to be with certain people to be happy perhaps. However, none of them made me really happy, even after actually getting the things I wanted. I went for a quest on the grander things, only to find myself most happy in the simplest things.

Here are the things that make me happy the most:

  • When I spend time with my family, friends and all the people I love – which does not happen very often. I feel happy sitting with them and talking about sensible things. Not gossiping or anything like that, but when we talk about our dreams, our own inner journeys, how things are going so well, talking about how blessed we are in life… When I sit with them and talk about these things, I am happy.
  • When I take time and just sit in the garden, watching the wind blowing the leaves from the trees, the waving flowers, the dancing grass… Whenever I can, I spend some time alone in the garden and just watch everything moves with the wind. I see the birds, our dogs and the butterflies… I cannot put in words how much it makes me happy. This is probably one of the best gifts this life has given me – the chance to witness the beauty of nature.
  • When I am on top of a hill or a mountain. I love nature in general, and mountains are my favorite. I get really happy whenever I visit a mountain. I look down from above and I silently tell myself, “Wow, this is happiness.” God really is the greatest artist of all time and He did a great job with nature.
  • When I spend time with our dogs. I grew up with dogs; we always had dogs around. I love to sit with them, hug them and play with them. They are really amazing creatures. I even tell them “I love you” – a lot. They say that dogs love you more than they love themselves. How unconditional is that? My dogs always know when I feel sad and the good thing about that is they don’t ask why, and I never have to explain myself. Just pure love.
  • When I work. I love my job and it is one of the things that bring joy to my life. I love it more when I get to work with awesome, loving people. It’s more like my good friend because it helps me distract myself from my personal issues sometimes. I guess that’s one of the purposes of work, to keep us sane – for me at least. Because when I get a long break from work, I would be thinking a lot, and that doesn’t go so well sometimes. Hehe
  • When someone says THANK YOU. I just love grateful people. It’s not that I want everyone to thank me because I’m awesome (wink*). I just get such a joy when I know that I get to help someone and they let me know. I just cannot explain how happy I am when I get a sincere thank you. Thank you!
  • When someone smiles at me. I love it when someone smiles at me, especially strangers. We get smiles from our friends and families all the time but when it comes from a stranger, it’s just different. I don’t know why, but it’s different and it feels great inside. Do you feel that too? 🙂
  • Long rides. I love riding in the backseat on a long ride. Also, because I get to watch the sky while the car is moving. The last time, we rode about 8 hours long trip, to and from our destination and all I did was look up the sky from the car window. Lovely sky, just lovely.
  • Long walks. I love to walk. My grandma’s place is a bit far from the main road so we have to walk from the road to their house. I love it. When someone tells me, “Do you mind if we walk?” I say, “Not at all, let’s walk!” with a BIG smile. 🙂

—Just want to add, when I was in fourth grade, we moved to my grandma’s place and lived there for a year. We had to walk about 4 miles, on foot to and from school. It was tiring though when we did it every day. My cousins now still walk that, because there’s no available transport until now. From elementary to high school they walk that far, morning and in the afternoon. So guys, be thankful for your comfort.

More things that makes me happy:

  • Reading a good book
  • Stepping on the grass, barefooted
  • Feeling the breeze on my skin
  • Clear blue skies
  • Seeing the sun shining through the windows in the morning
  • Sunrise, sunset
  • Watching the night sky
  • Full moon
  • White clouds
  • Soft pillows
  • Teddy, teddy, teddy
  • Seeing a little kid smile, watching kids play
  • Lakes
  • Gifts (Bought gifts are nice, handmade gifts are splendid)
  • Cooking
  • Giving, sharing my blessings to others
  • Gummy bear candies and marshmallows
  • Stationeries
  • Walking through rice fields
  • Call from loved ones (text are nice, but calls are more sincere)
  • Many more……. 😀

Trying to Remove Other People’s Suffering

Seeing other people suffer especially those we love is really painful. We always hope we could somehow help them take the pain away. Being unable to do so makes us suffer too. But how do we really help someone with their suffering? Can we really remove it for them?

I love to help other people with their problems. When I was a little kid, I wasn’t yet able to help my relatives with their problems, because I cannot give what they needed yet. When I grew older and I got to do more things, I started helping others and it made me feel good inside. It wasn’t about self-recognition, but I feel certain joy knowing that I am able to reduce the suffering of a friend or a family member.

This made me want to help more people. I wanted to give more and get rid of someone’s burdens. I always think that I must do something when I see someone who is in trouble. Sometimes, they didn’t even have to tell me – I would help them right away.

However, I noticed that this brought suffering in my life; in some ways especially if there are times that I am not able to help someone.

People that I’ve helped before come to me sometimes and when I couldn’t give them anything, they will be disappointed. I myself feel really awful because I disappointed them.

Lately, someone I love is asking if I could help them with something. I couldn’t give that specific thing they needed. I wished I could. They got mad, because for I don’t know how many times, I turned their request down because I really couldn’t give them what they wanted. I can give them something else, but they don’t really need it. They only needed that thing they were asking for.

It was when I really sat down with this thought and asked God why he won’t allow me to help that person when I wanted to and when he knows they really needed my help.

As always, the answers to my deepest questions get answered through silent prayers.

I realized that it was God’s way of telling me that others’ sufferings is not my responsibility. I can only heal a little part of their suffering, but they have to do the rest of the work. I realized that when I have something to give, it is God’s way of helping the person through me. But if I couldn’t give what they needed, it’s God’s way of giving more resources for the person so that other people will be able to help them.

The help does not have to solely come from me. It is God’s way of telling my loved ones that they should seek help from a different resource because his blessings are not limited. There are infinite resources if we just open our hearts to them and allow them to come to us.

It is also God’s way of reminding me not to feel bad when there are times that I couldn’t help others. Helping others does not really remove their suffering. It will only be removed if they realize that their pains, fears and negative thinking exist because they move away from love, away from God, and away from their faith.

I can only have compassion for others, but getting rid of the suffering itself is out of my control. We create our own sufferings and we can only heal them if we surrender them to love, to God and our eyes will begin to see the infinite possibilities of life.

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